I want to message you and say that your profile photo with you beau is the most heartwarming thing I've seen today. It makes my heart swell. I hover over your profile on WhatsApp. But I don't message you. I know you know I see your updated icon and I hope you know my joy [...]

“Everything happens for a reason” and Spiritual Bypassing

Spiritual bypassing is “using spiritual ideas and practices to sidestep or avoid facing unresolved emotional issues, psychological wounds, and unfinished developmental tasks . . . trying to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it.” Excellent article by Chris Wallis explaining how "Everything [...]

Other Women: the problem with Mona Eltehawi’s “Handmaid Tale” comment

First wave feminists told married women that sex was rape and that bras and girdles were oppression. The problem was the vast majority of married women did not feel they were being raped. Many had no strong feelings about bras beyond the trouble of finding a comfortable one that fit for various dress cuts. And [...]

The Thinness of Our Emotional SPF

We live in an age of cognitive dissonance. Where things are what we say they are, yet also their polar opposite, and in which we are all the things we call others. Liberals are simultaneously soft hearted, emotion lead hippies without jobs, yet also mean, non-accepting and media controlling elitists. Progressives who detested the tea [...]